FEAR IN LOVE

ashley-bean-90639.jpgGuys, did you miss me? You bet I have missed you more! For real. I haven’t been so very consistent in my writing art and that’s because there is a lot happening at the same time. Yes, I don’t know what to fix where, when and how. However, I have chosen to use this day to be able to put something up for you that I have gotten to learn over time. In one way or another, I hope that it is going to help us all and make us feel some typa way.

There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear. That’s the Biblical kinda love and I’m sure most of us are so familiar with this scripture. A good example to it is demonstrated by God, and His only Son Jesus Christ. The first demonstration is in John 3:16- For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him may not perish, but have everlasting life! And illustration 2? Mark 14:36 Jesus prayed, “Father, Everything is possible for You. Take this cup from me, yet not what I want, but what You will”

Christ Jesus gave Himself up not only to fulfill the Father’s will, but mostly because He loved us so greatly and that is why the fear for death on a cross, a painful death on a cross was overcome by a great love He had for all of us. That is why today I want to use an unlimited kind of love as an example to help change the fact that we are so limiting in love to the people we claim to love so much and with all of our hearts.

  • Be honest.

If you love, by all means it needs to be a sincere kind of love. God had the chance to revoke His decision on sending His Son down on the cross to die for us but what He felt for us was so sincere, He didn’t imagine creating us and watching us perish. Jesus also had an opportunity to reject the passion, but out of an honest love, He died and conquered sin. So, would you love in such honesty, without a need to take other different decisions that allow for several other conditions? If truly you love someone, love them without conditions and without limits. Let is flow!

  • Pray and communicate

The only way Jesus maintained a good and steady relationship with His Father and with His closest friends who were the disciples was because He often spent time alone in prayer. He prayed so that He would know when and how to communicate. For instance, when there was a raging storm in the sea and the disciples were scared and woke Him up from His sleep, He stilled the waters in trusting God that the situation would calm, and gently He asked His disciples why they had such little faith yet He was with them.

In the same way, we will experience certain storms of our lives because of love, and when we don’t pray, we fail to communicate the proper way. But in trusting God to calm the storms in our hearts, He is equally able to give us the right words to speak.

  • Be intentional and exclusive

There is bound to be a lot of hiccups in every journey of love. The most important thing is to have an intention and the intention should just be to love. If we allow the wind get to sway us from side to side, if from time to time we let ourselves lean on opinion, we get to forget our intention, which should be the very first thing we should have in our hearts. If Jesus didn;t have an intention to die for our sins because He loved us, if He listened to the inner voices of fear and doubt, we would not be here today. His intention was our redemption and redeemed we were. We got another chance.

Similarly, we too need to have an intention in love. Inner voices will tell us not to go further, inner voices will tell us to seek alternatives, inner voices will tell us to listen to the mind and not to the heart. Intention surpasses all doubt.

  • God’s will over selfishness.

Over time, I have realized that I have prayed so much for what I want. I would tell God this and that, and stick at it with all of my heart. While the Bible says in Psalm 37:4, Delight Yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of Your heart, He means that we need to trust His will. It is okay to tell Him that I desire to love one with all of my heart, to marry them and vice versa, to be with them all the days of my life, but it is even more appropriate to say, “Lord, they belong to You. Not what I want, but what I will”. It is so magical, the beauty that gets to unfold with just trusting God’s will.

I would wish to talk so much about how to conquer fear with true love but the truth is all in God’s word and that is why I quoted a few scriptures. However, the greatest lesson I learned from all of this is that if we are living in such great fear, it is because we are selfish enough not to surrender to God’s will. When we let God and His will manifest greatly in our lives and in the lives of the people we love, He is able to reveal certain truths to us which we never knew before. Love truly. Love greatly. Love intentionally, and most importantly, surrender to God’s will.

Happy Wednesday. #iChoosePeace for my country Kenya!

From my heart to yours with love.

LET JOY BE THE THEME OF YOUR LIFE

julien-lavallee-93749Hello good people! I trust you are doing great. Me? I am better than you can imagine. It has been more than a month I believe, that I haven’t been able to post anything. Questions came in a lot on my blog silence but I really did want to. Let’s say it was a tightness of schedule that was beyond me, but now I’m back and I will try to be as consistent as I was with you before.

It was in the month of May that I came across this quote, let joy be the theme of your life, with hope and faith leading you on. I did try to live it for a while but I can tell you that on several occasions, I failed miserably. Yes. However, a few minutes ago I was going through my Pinterest and I came across this, A quote is a quote until you implement it. You can agree with me that there is so much truth to that, right?

There will be certain times in life where we would rather allow so much come and steal our joy, even when they are things we can either control or completely ignore. Take for instance, a person whom you have to meet at the workplace everyday, and you are pretty sure you do not like them one bit. It is not like you did anything to them but they perhaps felt you were not worth loving. It is difficult to come to terms with the fact that you are unloved for no reason, and we would rather stick to that feeling that as a result envelopes as hate for another or that specific person that hates you too.

Why then would walking the joy lane be important?

  • It is freeing.

In all honesty, there is a freeing kinda feeling in being a snob of what brings you pain. This is because much of the pain is exerted by ourselves because we are quite scared of the outcome and we end up so worried about life. When I learned there are several people that hate me sincerely and some for o good reason, at first I was so heartbroken. You know? But later in slowly letting go, I have experienced some little freedom and peace.

  • We find other reasons to be happy

Some will choose to dwell on the fact that they are not a cup of coffee for many, while others will choose to simply remind themselves often that I am hated and not liked by some. One person told me that not all people will like me and I learned to deal with the fact that some people simply never will. Since then, I found little ways to keep myself busy and to just allow the little moments of happiness stay with me even if they lasted just a moment.

  • You become yourself.

When you walk under other people’s opinions of why they sometimes dislike you, you will realize that the natural element of being yourself begins to slowly go away. You begin to simply try to impress them to win some love for them. However, letting go and not having to interact with them allows you to keep being yourself. I’m sure you know of so many people who have been themselves, even when the world seemed to be against them. It’s about who and what’s inside you.

While these maybe some of the good experiences you may have if you learned to just be yourself and ignore the fact that you are unloved by some without any just course, it is good for me to mention that it will not be easy. There will always be a lump in your throat when you think about them. This day I pray that we shall find that strength to let go and to believe that we are important. No one is bad or evil, and no one deserves to be despised. We would hate on people’s behavior, but it is so wrong to hate on the people themselves.

If you are carrying that baggage of self pity and low self esteem because you are unloved, embrace what you do best and feel gets to bring an impact. Be around those people who appreciate your company and vice versa, and be as far away as possible from those who seem to hate you, both mentally and physically.

This life is a brood of all, but the most important thing to remember is that you are the most important person in this world. Let joy be the theme of your life, with hope and faith leading you on.

God bless you.

THAT BURNING SENSATION….

toa-heftiba-295066Hello, guys! I trust that life’s been treating you fairly on your end. I have been great and this far I’ve come and the far I’m yet to go, I give God all the glory and all the honor. Today, I would like to get a little deep. My topic may also be somehow difficult to comprehend but I am writing this today, upon request. Like yesterday, I also want to speak today to all the single persons and those that are already in the lane of dating. Is it fast moving or is there manageable control? Someone asked me these two questions yesterday.

  • How can one avoid the temptations of the flesh?
  • How does one reconcile with God after?

I would wish to handle each on its own, using my very own opinion, and then you can tell me about yours in my comments box below, once you’re done with the reading. Yes? So let’s get to it.

  • How can one avoid the temptation of the flesh?

A long time ago, the lived two friends. There was Tommie the Cat and Timmy, the Mouse. It’s unusual that at the time, these two were friends but really, there is nothing that God cannot do. One day, they both decided to go on a spree together, in some lonely Island where no people lived. It was just them but it was really a beautiful place for two friends who’d been together a long time to retreat. Tommie sincerely loved Timmy. They had been friends for over 6 years when each of them was so tiny. It got to a time, however, that Tommie began to lust after Timmy. The lust was a kind that, he wanted to eat Timmy. At the back of his mind, he knew it’d be so wrong to do that, even though Timmy at the time looked so delicious. The desire was so great, but the love Tommie had for Timmy allowed for him to control that desire he had to eat his poor little friend. He still went ahead to tell Timmy what he’d intended to do. Timmy was rather understanding because they had heard stories before where cats ate mice all the time. The desires would often come and each time Tommie felt this way, he talked to Timmy and they’d focus on other stuff.

  • How to reconcile with God after falling into temptation.

There was once a little boy named James who had the habit of stealing fruits from a nearby school. He didn’t attend the school but there were so many fruit trees in the fruit compound, he wouldn’t resist the urge to steal. He knew what he was doing was wrong and he began to look for help. He immediately went to see a Priest in his church and told him what had been happening in his life. The Priest was very kind and gentle with the child and these were the words he told him. “My Son, even as you committed this deed, the Lord still loved you. It hurt Him to see you do it, but He knew you would eventually see that it was wrong. He not only forgives you for that mistake, the most important thing is that He never stopped loving you.”

What can we, therefore, learn from these short stories above? From the temptation point, my very fist answer would be, you cannot avoid temptation. But you can resist it. If Christ Jesus who is God was tempted, then we too must expect the temptation from time to time. Many people who are in relationships are struggling with temptations and urges, and have beaten themselves up from time to time, and wallowed in sadness and unforgiveness. Tommie and Timmy’s story teaches us to resist and we can only do so if we understand why we are together. He valued the friendship, more than he did a temporary desire. He understood that eating his long time friend would leave him without a friend to trust and he opted to communicate with his friend. When you communicate with your girlfriend/boyfriend or with your spouse, high chances are that you may either get rejected or more understood. You may create a supportive bond where both you can teach each other how to grow, and how to resist. We call this Self Control, which the Holy Spirit gives to us as a fruit but only if we show the desire.

Reconciling ourselves to God after the sin? The second story teaches us that God doesn’t stop loving us. Not even during that time we are sinning. He doesn’t move away from us. We do when we sin. So yes, it is our duty to reconcile ourselves to Him and to His love, because He didn’t stop being friends with us. He never left us. We can, therefore, rest knowing that God loved us first and still loves us today. He is the only one that can give us the control, and that way we can treasure the hearts of those whom He has entrusted to us. What’s important to remember is that He was tempted, but He got strength.

Mark 14:36 is a verse I would wish to leave you with. It says: “Abba, Father,” he cried out, “everything is possible for you. Please take this cup of suffering away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.”

Sometimes I tend to feel like this was a second temptation Jesus encountered. He almost gave up and if He had, I don’t know where you would today. He instead called out to God who strengthened Him and He endured the entire painful passion for our salvation.

This same God will strengthen us and help us through our temptation, and make His will greatly manifested in our lives. The solution is not in giving up. The solution is in loving God and yourself, and that way you can love your friends even better.

I wrote this upon request and I hope it will get to impact in one way or another. May you be blessed as you read. Have the best time!

FLEE..

alexandre-debieve-212961.jpgHello, guys. I trust you have been keeping well, as it has been a while I put up something right here. I didn’t forget you though. I was in some kind of vacay and I had opted to sleep most of the time. But I’m here, I am back and we can continue from where we left. 

Have you ever found yourself simply walking towards that which you wanted to avoid? Either it was hurting you too much or it constantly caused you misfortunes. How have you dealt with such a situation? You have perhaps tried all exits that provided an opposite direction walk but still, you always walked towards that which you have wanted to avoid.

I know this kind of feeling because most of what we want to flee from are what we have held on to for a very long time. Fear. Fear speaks out so loud for itself, you wonder just how big its mouth can be. We entangle ourselves so much to it and we are afraid that letting go may cause us more pain and put us at a place we may not be able to get ourselves out of.

What then can you do, so that what you fear becomes what you get to embrace?

  • Wish good for whatever you’re fleeing from.

It could be a person or a certain situation that you are trying to flee yourself from. Before anything else, wish that something good could come out of the person or the situation so that a remarkable change can begin to be felt and experienced.

  • Know exactly what you want.

Often we are in these situations or with people because we do not really know what we want. However, if we got to understand where exactly we are coming from and where exactly we need to be, we begin to slowly detach and the detangling process begins to get easier.

  • Know your worth

There are certain things that we get to do that demean our worth and our value. We begin to feel of little value and we start being so unappreciative of who we truly are. We forget that we are powerful and unique, and we are God’s children and He loves us. Once we can understand that we are worthy even when circumstances make us feel otherwise, we can get free from the situations that make us feel as we do.

  • Thank God for the situation

I have learned that the most important thing we can do for ourselves is to thank God for whatever situation He allows in our lives. Good or bad, we do not come out the same. Whether a situation has made you feel like you needed to be there even when you were not supposed to, God keeps you at it so that in freeing you or helping you flee, you may learn what it is like to be somewhere you are not supposed to be at.

If we know how exactly we can do everything out of a sincere and genuine love, we will often wish that there was something positive, even just a little from whatever it is we are trying to run from. No one is bad, we only sometimes make choices that are not right. If we love the people whom we think are bad, they will begin to love themselves and start doing acts of kindness.

Sometimes, it takes just one ordeal to realize that there is more to life. God has intended for it to be beautiful, and the “bad situations” are just but milestones to get us to the land of positivity surrounded by all beautiful things and people, and that is us.

Once again, I had missed writing to you people. I will try to be as consistent as I should. I thank you very much for reading, and this is from my heart to yours! 🙂

SHOUT OUT..

joshua-fuller-207188.jpgI know when I mention love, most people’s minds go to, boy-girl love, or husband-wife love. Well, loves is universal and by that I mean, it is what controls the world. To prove me true, it was why Jesus hung on that tree on Good Friday. He died for so much love He felt then and still feels now, for you and me. Yes.

Anyways, I haven’t been here quite sometime. I know. I had taken a litu vacation from work and I’m sad, just a litu cos my leave and time to have to sleep all I wanted is almost coming to an end. But well, they all that has a beginning, does come to an end. The past days, maybe week has been quite fair to me in terms of love.

There come that time in life whereby we feel lost and alone. Other times we feel that we are not up to the expectations of other people and we therefore do not deserve any kind of love. If you’ve been there, I know you know exactly what it is I’m trying to talk about.

Would it be queer if I said that we get to deny ourselves the love? Yes we do. Like I said., that past week for me has been fair and insightful. It was the very same people that I would feel loved me least, who turned out to love me the most. So yes, I did deny myself that love and no one got to deny it me.

There is probably a reason you feel unloved. By people and even by God Himself. I would totally get you when you say that. I have however discovered it is during that time you feel God doesn’t live you that He is closest the most to prove that He never left to begin with.

As you enter into this new week, I pray that you shall feel immensely the love you haven’t felt in a long time. It opens your eyes to other virtues like kindness, generosity and you begin to share them with those that also haven’t felt it in a long time.

I thank God for all of you and I wish you a blessed coming week ahead. From my heart to yours… 🙂

FIND YOUR ‘SWEET’ SPOT…

carlos-alberto-gomez-iniguez-107821.jpg…. It was just last night we got to have this conversation, well, a different one of course but mayne! this one just had to come through today. First of all, a very good morning to you and I trust that your night was straight and restful. Yes? By straight I mean no too much heat, no too much cold and that you didn’t toss and turn all over the bed to find comfort for your sleep. If you did, I’m sorry. The weekend almost begins and right about now!

I’m positive. So positive that even if not much is going too well in my life right now, there’s still a thread of hope I’m holding on to and that’s exactly the reason I have had a chance to share this with you this morning. By the way. I don’t mean to brag or floss, but God has given me this thing. I may get to meet a person, or observe an object and I can see ideas written all over it. So today I was just able to come up with this whole thing that made me think, oh Lucy, all each and every one of us is a different but favorite spot.

I’m pretty sure as you read you’re already wondering, what the hell is she tryna say? Well here is what I’m trying to say sweetheart but let me tell you what brought it about first. I was coming to work this morning and there is this point that I get to a light at and take about 3 minutes to get to the office. So while I was walking I realized that there’s a lady who’d found herself a spot where she’d sell her mayai. I’m a lover of boiled eggs with kachumbari that has got all the chilly in it. Last evening I had one and I discovered that the guy doesn’t put kachumbari in the chilly. I suggested that he should get an extra smaller tin with hot kachumbari for customers like myself. I hope to find him in the evening, at his spot, with hot kachumbari for me! Lol.

Okay, okay….TMI. Now I will get to my main point. I am pretty sure there’s most of you that already feel defeated because all you have tried has not gotten to work out. It is devastating I know and I say this because I have been there, not once or even twice. But when I got to see this mayai lady I remembered my favorite one who sells hers at the office entrance. I also came across a guy who was selling his mandazis at a corner. Here is what I got to discover, two things needed so that things will start working well for you.

  • Pray to God before you begin

We have this habit of wanting to do something or everything because all others are doing it. We forget that others do it because they can and it is usually not just for show. Yes the Lord asks us to be hands on and get to try much more as long as our hands are strong enough to do so, but there should be a certain kind of attitude towards what we get to do. This is why we should pray to see if God really wills that our lives go in that direction. I can tell you for sure that if He wills it, you will feel an urge to keep pursuing just that and if He does not, then you get to lose interest at it and almost immediately. Seeking God before we pursue our plans gets to call for immense blessing in ways we have not even imagined. He is always right!

  • Find your spot

There is a really big fear of competition. I know! We do not have great discoveries of gravity, or things that happen in space that make us unique and hard to compete against. No. What we have now is a very competitive world and we have to do almost the same things but how we succeed depends on how exactly we get to do it. After you have prayed and received a confirmation, it is then that you get to look for a spot you call your own. Consecrate the place and trust God to be with you at it. When I look at these mayai people and others who sell snacks on the road at specific places, you realize that they have their own specific clients and within a short period, they’ve sold all their goods and are smiling home with good returns.

What then is my point today? It is two points actually. We will often want to help ourselves but it is good we learn that we can only make it through God and therefore, we need to trust Him by seeking His advice, His guidance. He responds, even through people. Secondly, we need to live fiercely and without fear. If you are confident enough to go ahead with what God has confirmed and found your own spot, God will surely send you people that will be able to carry you forward and you will not have to fear competition or not making it at all. The blessings will always be glaring at you directly to your face.

So hey guys! I know I had made a post last night but this one just had to push itself out and I hope by all means it will be helpful, cos it is from my heart to yours. Therefore, before you even get to read, thank you because God has sent you here. Have a super duper weekend!

BE KIND….

renee-bigelow-67702.jpgAs I am writing this, I swear my heart and not my mouth is all smiles. O will give you a story of something that happened to me yesterday. I experienced it all kindness.. 🙂 Remembering it once again, my heart and not my mouth is smiling again.

So as usual, I woke and I knew I had a totally busy day ahead. I wasn’t sure how it was going to turn out but yeeey….I was totally positive for the outcome. Everything went perfectly well but what stood out for me and crystal clear was how much kindness I received. Honestly speaking, it was all out of this world and I could ask myself “are there really nice people in this world?” I couldn’t believe it.

So why did it seem so odd for me? Here is why:

  • Unkindness

The first half of my year has been filled with so much unkindness and from just one place I almost became that kind. I thank God for saving me before I became such a cruel person. From morning till evening, I encountered things and ordeals that weren’t so nice and that totally embittered me.

  •   Inner wounds

Clearly, there is no way you’d be with inner wounds and still expect to kill them with kindness. (Thanks Selena). But yes, part of why we are humans is that we have in us inner wounds that we sometimes do not even understand. Sometimes we are unhappy for nothing, we are always sad and other times we are really angry. You my friend cannot be kind in this state.

  • Depending on self

Here I do not mean Mr or Mrs. independent. No. I mean when you are struggling to get out of a situation and you’re like “hell yeah, I know me best so I can get out of this one real quick” that’s a lie bro! You will often fall back into the same pit because yes, you will need support and especially emotionally to thrive and to be positive so you can spread the same support which sure is an act of kindness.

These are just but a few mentions of things I have encountered in myself that caused me not to be kind. But after yesterday, Wow! I see a different light. I can’t believe the impact was so big I still feel it. I wanna break down for you a litu what happened. Everyone was honestly very kind. I won’t go into the morning details but let me delve straight into what happened in the afternoon.

A month ago, I lost my wallet and you know what that means. Everything in it including my very ugly baby passport disappeared. So I had to replace all of my very important documents because life was beginning to get really hard without them. I didn’t expect to get all of the documents yesterday but I did. Everyone that attended to me was gentle and kind and made me feel like I had known them a million years and that’s something I haven’t experienced in a while.

What seemed slow was hastened for my sake just so I wouldn’t have to wait so long. Moral of the story? Life will often be unkind, but there are beautiful souls out there who will turn your life around and make you a person you’d never been initially. It doesn’t matter how cruel people are towards you. Let’s strive to be kind in return and the world will be a totally different place to live in.

I should go to bed now because it’s night so that means full stop? Yes! Good night loves and thanks a lot for reading….:-) From my heart to yours of course!