“HOW IT TAUGHT ME TO TAKE EACH DAY AS IT COMES”

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I have for a very long time been friends with my best friend Malia. Let’s say I have known her almost for a duration I have gotten to know myself. Malia has been one person who’s greatly imparted my life in all areas. Physically (workouts), emotionally, spiritually and even socially. I would have been something totally different, say a weirdo? If I didn’t have someone help me get back on track.

I have lived with the worst kind of paranoia for almost all the years I have lived on this earth. “God, this is crazily ridiculous”! I preferred to sense danger where it wasn’t and even see smoke where there wasn’t a fire. Ahhh.. I know that does not make sense somehow but I’m almost getting into something quite serious.

There comes a time in a girl’s life, that she gets to separate herself from her friends. Its queasy cause in most cases, it is never intentional. This mostly gets to happen when the girl starts to “grow” and get a little bit more social. You feel me there? I wish I’d use myself as an example but “Hey Malia! I’m about to spill some porridge right here!”

Malia got herself a really wonderful boyfriend. I didn’t get to talk much about our kinds of traits but honestly speaking, she’d be the one who helped me come out of my cocoon. I had not known that all this time, there was something about her that needed to be ridded off her. She’d have great insecurities that’d often lead her to make crazy assumptions and conclusions.

Love has not changed really, but a lot that involves it has changed. In days of old, we wouldn’t hear or see much of what we here now, I wonder if our forefathers would call their spouses or even their girlfriends, babe, hun, sweetheart, pancake, name them.. Let alone all that, how did they even meet? I remember a time I met a guy in town. I held on to some dustbin that’s near Hilton Hotel. I mean, I didn’t have balance. Ha! Ha!

I’m trying to think of so many people right now. My grandparents, my parents, my aunts and uncles already married, how did they meet? How did they react? Were there dates during their time? And texts? How about when they argued? Had insecurities? This is it! This is what I want to delve into!

Malia had an amazing boyfriend. She loved him so so much but she was so very insecure. Often she’d call me and tell me all these things she felt. It’s weird when your best friend calls you to advise on such and you’re there thinking about how your grandparents survived it. Ah! It is not easy oh! I had to learn to help anyway. In the process, I would also become a perfect student of modern love today.

Malia often told me about how she would want her marriage to be like. As girls, we all have these dreams. We’d even book a gown before we have even met our mate. Now the greatest thing we forget is that when we have seen so far, which is not a bad thing is of course, we forget to live that present moment. When our mate tells us to focus on the present and make it better during that time that we have the opportunity to, we think they are not serious in the relationship. Sometimes we start having imaginations and wishes like “Oh, I wish I met him and we got married the next day!”

Malia had great goals and visions for their relationship. The only thing that caused it not to feel like it’d ever happen was that she didn’t live that moment. All she talked about was marriage, a house and children. Her insecurities were honestly too great because her amazing boyfriend had to give her 100% attention even as they walked along the streets. She had a bad anger and it was mostly over nothing and preferred not to trust anyone, even her boyfriend.

Well, as inexperienced as I was, I decided to sit her down and made her understand how to handle love today. I don’t mean to say that I had all the juicy information to give that’d transform the relationship in a snap, no. I honestly knew nothing at the time but yes, I did talk to my bestie. Hehe.

Young people today are very much exposed to so much. There’s exposure of good and bad and some of this has contributed to either growth or destruction. From what we watch, listen to, read, we choose how to shape our lives from the same and we teach or show others what we’ve become. Malia had known me, all her life and I’m the only person’s traits she’d read best. She needed an adjustment and that was how to understand love today. Her guy may have as many friends, but if he was often there, it meant that she was so important to him.

I didn’t really know if this conversation was leading us anywhere, but I asked Malia to learn to live the present moment. What was special about each hour they spent? How were they to create any memories if their lanes were miles apart? One thing I knew, as inexperienced and the rookie I was in love, even romance needed a day at a time. It needed to be taken step by step. A day at a time gives us room to learn and to be better. Same applies to love.

As it is today, Malia hardly looks for me to talk about her romantic boyfriend. But she does look for me when she needs to take me out for a pizza. We can’t water a second flower when the first us already withering. Love needs to be nurtured where it is and that’s where it gets to bloom from. To this day, Malia always tells me that this was one conversation that taught her to take everything a day at a time. Everything and not just the relationship!  I’m a proud love rookie!

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WHERE YOUR TREASURE IS…

As I was scrolling down my twitter timeline this morning, I couldn’t help but glare for quite a number of minutes, at how hearty people get at the things they love. You know? Preaching and speaking far and wide about it to get support. Why? This is because they knew it would not only be to their advantage but to the advantage of many.

Simple question is, would you destroy anything you love? Something you really treasure? Would you stand and watch as people in joint effort demolished it for their own selfish gain? Where your treasure is, there your heart lies also. All of us hate broken hearts, and it is unfortunate that broken hearts come from those we love.

In the recent past, I have been trying to understand the word “activists” you know? I have followed quite a number on social media and I must say I developed an interest when my younger sister joined the activists club. Little by little, I learnt that they did not do it for recognition, or money, or fame, it has been none of it. They have done it for love, and more importantly for those who couldn’t raise their voices.

It didn’t occur to me that there’d be a great passion for some things that we so often overlook. I agree that sometimes, social media is a great waste of time and especially if those on it share nothing constructive, or you end up sharing nothing constructive as well you know? Attention? Yeah right!

You may be wondering what I’m trying to talk about, yet I’m already 270 words done already. But here is the thing. Well, let’s say I’m almost getting there. A day ago, I was watching Nat Geo world. Apparently I haven’t been a fan or rather, a wildlife enthusiast, but I think I’m beginning to. I’ll quote once more, “where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” I was watching the wild cats! The fierce ones at that! Cheetahs, Leopards, Tigers, Lions, Hyenas (oops!) TMI.

I can tell you for sure. I loved the view. I was mum. I just wanted to watch. Just that. Thinking about how much I get to enjoy it, I’m brought to a nostalgic feeling when people poach these animals that entertain us, melt our hearts with love at admiring their beauty, so that they could get skin, fur, mane (from horse) I didn’t know it was called that and a whole lot more.

There was something about me on Monday. These particular animals would kill one another to survive. Lions killing cheetah, cheetah killing antelope, hyena killing wilder beast etc and seeing how they struggled to death kind of pained me. They thing is that they are animals and that’s their only means of survival, so excuse them? They lose nothing, if anything; they get eating to their fill. But it pained me.

There was one incident that pained me most. There were three cheetahs playing and one had been slightly injured. I honestly did not know all my life that cheetahs are afraid of lions and that lions can kill cheetahs and not even eat. I mean, just kill. So when the lion approached, two cheetahs fled. One couldn’t run as fast because he had an injury and that was the end of him. Just like that. He was left for the scavengers.

I will relate this story or rather my experience to our activists today fighting for girls’ and boys’ rights, fighting for peace in our country, fighting for rivers to keep running, fighting to eliminate sewage so that we eliminate cholera and other waterborne diseases. They are the lions in our lives and what they fight for is their treasure. When we contaminate these rivers, exposing it to drying by using it for wrong reasons, we leave the helpless at the mercy of death. Animals and people. We put them in the injured cheetah’s position.

Rather than doing the exact opposite of what they fight for, let us support them. I realized after watching the documentary on Nat Geo, these animals are a treasure for us. They do not have well paying jobs to find themselves flour and fruits to survive on. Thus they kill each other. However if we were to stop the poaching for selfish gain, eliminating them would be hard. Because even if they kill each other to survive, they are still multiplying!

We talk of lagging behind economically, but the truth is we have placed the misfortune on ourselves. Because we have ears and do not listen, eyes and do not see! We have treasures but our hearts are truly far away from it. Salute to all activists out there working round the clock to save what’s been destroyed. I may not have the voice like you do, but trust me I support you 100%. Let us save wildlife, let us save rivers and together we will get moving forward! In the end, let our hearts be tandem with our treasure!

 

This is all from my heart to yours! 🙂

 

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NON RESISTANT

Good morning lovely people. I’m trusting y’all are feeling good and lovely this Thursday morning. Lately I have not been as consistent with my writing or let me say with my keeping in touch but hey! I think about you still. I’m grateful that I’m stuck in traffic to be able to share a few positive thoughts today. 

You can all agree with me that since the gear started, we have either tried to come up with plans or certain patterns. Almost 3 months down the line, we are still struggling to keep up. When I say we, I’m including myself so much. 

What I’m I talking about for example? 

1. Waking up early and at a certain time. 

Well, what we do when it comes to this is every week we set a new alarm. We keep doing this until we can adjust to one and keep at it. But it’s failing. 

2. Healthy eating. 

We say it in our mind. “Oh yeah! This year and the years to come, I will start to eat healthy so that my body and my mind are positively alert all the time! Wuup wuup… Great! You flop

3. Sleep early. 

After making this decision, you are the one that sleeps last and latest in your house. Lol! 

Well anyway, these are just but a few examples. There are so many more. The truth is that once the body is accustomed to a certain way of life, adjusting to something new is a bit uncomfortable. Change is never comfortable at the beginning. 

On thinking about it though and a few struggles of my own, I figured I’m not putting in as much energy into trying. I still want a little comfort as much as I want the change to come. The two can never go hand in hand. They will probably meet and kiss later but not at that time you are beginning. 

So whatever change you are making, start small. Start with a little adjustments. You too Lucy. And I believe at the end of the day, if our focus becomes the result of the change we make, we will get doing it. 
Lets be a bit brief today. Thanks for reading. From my heart to yours. 😊

 

YOU CAN STAND, YOU CAN GROW

She feared she could rise, fight her fear and stand, yet all that power was within her.

e9a1c12061aaba6150d53ee1c2ff396e.jpgCherono was a young beautiful Kalenjin girl who lived in Kenagut, a shanty town in Bomet county. Born and raised by her grandmother, that was the only parent she’d known all her life. Often she’d see her mates with parents but in her very early years, she never got to meet her parents. They were there, very alive but life’s busyness had gotten them so much to that extent they wouldn’t spend time with their little girl.

Cherono however worked very hard and would often perform exemplary in her studies. One thing limited her though, she didn’t have that courage and oomph to stand up for herself. She often sought the approval of others before she’d make any decision. Everything that was crucial in her life depended entirely on others opinions.

Many years passed and Cherono continued to live under the shadow of others. She couldn’t recognize her shadow so she’d come out of it and eliminate whatever barred her success. Sometimes it is usually something from within that at times takes a lot of time to define. Was it her fear? Was it her attitude? What really was going on?

Cherono now had grown into a lady. She had done well in school, completed college and gotten herself a luxurious life. Something was still missing despite all this. She didn’t have a good relationship with almost all the people she interacted with, but she did have some friends and others who were her supporters. This greatly disturbing her, she decided to perform an exercise to see of things for her would get changing:

  1. She prayed.

I will not delve much into her story but I will use these things she did to explain how life can get to turn around when all may be going well, but the most important stagnating. Do you remember a verse in Ezekiel 36, where God speaks to Prophet Ezekiel and assures Him that He will change the people’s hearts of stone to hearts of flesh? Cherono asked the Lord to change her heart so she could relate well with people and for sure the Lord had her. She began to win positive relations and friendships.

  1. She took time to self.

Cherono decided to for a moment take time to self and evaluate her life and its pattern. Sure enough she discovered that there were things which were so routine and didn’t grow her in any way as they were always the same things.Sometimes, we tend to accustom ourselves to the kind of life we have known. We do not want to go that extra mile because we are afraid of the outcome. However, Cherono discovered that routine and normal is boring and discovered she needed to learn new and pursue greatness.

  1. Self decisions

There comes a time in life where in a good way we get to say enough is enough, and appreciate the consequences of our decisions. That’s where growth comes in. Making a wrong decision, seeing its implication and knowing that next time, you could do better. Our decisions are what either build us or destroy us depending on what we choose to do. However letting others decide us for us leaves us with regret for a lifetime as well as the urge to keep blaming those that decide for us if it fails.

4. The Bold Step!

Finally, after we have made the decisions and its stuck on us like tattoo, we now take the bold step. We begin to do the unimaginable and the unthinkable. We begin to give a chance to what we couldn’t do, we begin to become fierce and the fear begins to go. We begin to express our thoughts and our feelings boldly, without naivety! We become completely new versions of ourselves.

So what now? Sometimes what limits us to growth is the fact that we think that time has already gone against us and we therefore cannot be where we had intended to be. The past can of course not be changed, and it is what it is. However, there is a high probability that the present and the future can change, depending with your determination.

5d248029451a864d2f0955aca2ff0c57.jpgWhile it is true that your decision to start growing and being independent will cause some conflict within and without, I say go for it. Make the boldest of choices without fear and celebrate the fact that your humble beginning results in prosperity.

Hey guys! It has been forever I posted something for us, but let’s say today I just decided I would. Well, it has been a not so good month for me but things are slowly looking up. Here’s to positive vibes for Monday, all from my heart to yours! 🙂

 

STRONGER THAN YOU KNOW!

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NOT BORN TO SUFFER:

Child, I know how often you’ve been alone. How many times you have felt alone and assumed that you lived this life alone. I can feel how much your soul and not just your heart have been clouded by fear. How scared you are to take a leap of faith. You may want to call yours a leap of fear and therefore opt to remain as you are. Naïve and alone.

Child, things have gone so wrong for you and you already can tell that there’s darkness in your future. Sicknesses, rejections, losses, name it all. You’ve been through it all. But that is just the beginning. It’s instilled in you a lot of fear when it happened but little by little you begin to get fierce.

Child, little by little it has felt like the pain of the stab of a knife. Tears trickling down your cheeks at the thought of the darkness that surrounds you. You wonder to self, “When will this ever end?” It feels like it has been long overdue, and it is now the time to take the risk. It doesn’t matter the cost.

Child, for so many years of your life, you lived another you. You have never been your truest version, rather someone else. People have met a different you. They haven’t really known the real you. Fear changed you. Hurt changed you. Pain changed you. You let life change you.

Child, you think of the decisions you have made. Things you did that you regret now and wonder how to make amends. You wonder if life will ever shine it’s bright light towards you, or it’ll always be against you. Too long you justified everything you did, because you were scared of change.

Child, people have loved you so much. People have cared enough for you. People have gone out of their way to bring you joy. The sad thing is, regardless of the kind of life people have made you live, lavishing you with joy, wanting the best for you, you didn’t give either of that to yourself. Your life has been determined by just what you received. So if it was negative critic, you dwelt on just that.

Child, you now probably feel like you need a whole lot of answers to your life. It feels like you’re escaping while in real sense, you are taking the first greatest risk of your life. You do not know about tomorrow, nor about what’s in store for your future. It is kinda scary, but something inside tells you “go for it!”

Child, it is encouraging to see how much you thirst for growth. Your past life is of course pitiable, but it has resulted to someone a little fierce. You now want to do things by yourself, believing in yourself and it is amazing. The hurt may have been intense but it brings forth a great breakthrough! It’s nice and exciting to see what you’re becoming.

Child, my final and last statement will be to wish you well. There is no one who matters more than you. Everyone else may think you cannot, but the truth is you can. When you’re overwhelmed by fear, tell yourself it’ll pass and have a winning spirit. You were not born to suffer, and your life shouldn’t be one of suffering. It is never too late to make a difference. Every single heartbeat counts. Every moment of your life is a time for difference. An opportunity to clean the slate and start all over. You’re a diamond and thus should live as one.

Now this is from my heart to the heart of a diamond who has been and still as fierce, and is now in pursuit of living life fearlessly! I wish you well and I wish you God. 🙂

 

LOVE KNOWS NO FEAR

Hey guys! This is me again. Tonight’s post has been inspired by a discussion I have had with a friend after work today. Love, love, love. Did you ever love something or someone so much that you’d constantly dread losing it or them? I have been here. It could be a person, your job, your pet, something really close to you. You want to do possibly everything and anything just to keep it or them. 

So in discussing this whole issue called love, I got to understand that the dread to lose is more of fear. It comes and overtakes the love that is in itself pure and very genuine. We begin to make judgements, we begin to point out faults so that they are easily and quickly corrected before all hell breaks loose and the loss takes effect. 

Sometimes the fear causes us to take matters into our own hands. It comes to make us slaves of ourselves and of others. We deny others their freedom to express themselves, cause we want them to be what we already picture them to be in our minds. This results to friction cause there will be constant misunderstandings, arguments and all other unnecessary stuff. 

I think we shouldn’t dwell on fear when it comes to love. Whatever is meant to be will be. There’s not a need to try too hard to impress. Whatever is meant to be appreciates us as we are and accomodates it. Instead of trying to make us versions of who we are not, it focuses on making us better than we are today. 

Last but most important, love should teach us to seek and desire God more than anything else. Where God is, there is absence of fear. Where God is, there is certainty and surety of what’s already happening. Where God is, there is an unshakable foundation that’s not easily destroyed by fear. He is the answer. 

Today, tell the person you love fearlessly that you do. If it’s your job, work at it like you never have before. True love has a lasting reward and only God gives that reward. 

Thanks for reading. From my ♥ to yours. 😊

CLAIM IT!

76f05f3bb713864742b0a6db63c1337a.jpgNikita, a young girl of 15 years had a great desire in her to get married. She’d often tell it to her sister who was way younger and they’d both get very excited about it. However, they both came from a very poor family. Nikita tried all sorts of jobs so her and her sister wouldn’t sleep hungry. At times she’d think her dream to get married someday was quite absurd, given the kind of life they currently lived. She was very pretty, had a good heart and was always there for people that needed her. Whenever she didn’t have anything tangible to offer as help to all that called on her, she’d give all her time just so the other person felt cared for. She didn’t have it all, but she lived a happy life regardless and that came from the joy she’d often bring into people’s lives.

Daily, Nikita would pray to God so that their condition would change someday. Poverty is painful and it hurts even most when you are so much willing to help and can do nothing about it. Nikita still reminded God how much she dreamed of getting married. To a man she loved and live a happy life. This was her biggest dream at the time. To have a wonderful family of her own. She also wanted her sister happy. Her sister had wanted to be a doctor and help patients who had heart problems. She too hoped that someday, heaven would open and rain down favor. They believed in a God who turned great impossibilities to unimaginable possibilities.

Sometimes Nikita thought to herself, maybe because of my status, the fact that I’ve been born poor and still living poor, I may never get married. No man will ever look at a poor person and desire them. At least that’s what she thought. What she didn’t know is that status has not earned many anything. What earns us is our personality, our kindless, our good deeds and our faith in God. :-). So of course she had her doubts but her dream and desire would still linger numerous times in her head. She still dared to hold on to hope and to her dream. When she was 21, she met a man who loved her I imagine more than she even loved herself. Apparently he was a man from a good background. That kinda scared Nikita, but the man loved her anyway. For a while she wondered what people would think. Would they think she was with him for his money? All these crossed her mind and she would often hesitate. The man still loved her. It didn’t take them long, they got married and Nikita was able to put her sister to school. A lot did happen after that but it’s about you, I want us to learn that nothing’s impossible. 🙂

0c68b32752d833bb4260af2fe9b1e2d2.jpgNo one holds your dreams for you. No one gets to know what it is you desire to become, until you tell them. I have learned with time that people talk and people change. But that shouldn’t deter you from moving forward. I have also come to learn that God knows even before it happens, what will happen on specific days and times. He knows you will laugh today, cry tomorrow. He knows you will hope today, give up tomorrow. He knows you will have in abundance today, nothing tomorrow. That’s what is important. To understand that He knows even our dreams and desires and hopes we could keep claiming them in His Name.

There will come a time when people will laugh at you, jeer at you, curse at you, mock you and say all sorts of things. However, what do you think of yourself? Will you let your dream pass simply because everyone else imagines you’re not the kind to achieve? Are you almost always worried about what others say or think about you? Remember, your heart is your voice and where it directs you, you go. If today you dream to fly to Paris for a 3 months holiday, claim it in Jesus Name. If today you’re dreaming to change the lives of many who’ve probably lived your kind of life, one of fear, claim it and just begin small. If today you’re hoping to own your own company, claim it in Jesus Name. The Lord is in love with people that claim their dreams in His Name. It’s just the beginning of an unlocked potential and soon you will be blessing and celebrating. Be kind, be silent and just pray. The Lord is still fighting. Walking the paths He intends you walk through so that at the end of the day, you will achieve that dream. Claim it!

Exodus 14:14 says, The Lord will fight for You, you have only to keep still.

I’m speaking to one out there who’s dream has been crashed by people’s opinion. It is not too late to dream again. That dream you have is God’s calling for you. That dream you have will not only change you. It’ll change the world and do something more miraculous and great. It’ll bring God all the glory and all the honor and that is what we are here for. To live it all for God. Keep dreaming and keep hoping because at the end of the day, you will have lived your purpose.

Thank you for reading. From my heart to yours. 🙂