Hello loves! The going has been great I believe, hasn’t it? Mine has been good…A bit of down moments but I have been coping just fine. As usual, I’m looking forward to a fruitful end of the week and I am trying my best to ensure that it shall be just that.
A few years ago, I was taught some lesson that is still indelibly printed in, on my mind today. The words used at the time were “attention” and “inner wounds” that as a result taught me not to always judge situations and people for not knowing what it is they have been through.
What leaves me still a bit confused up till now, is whether some of the things we do to ourselves today are intentional, or we really have something behind the same. In our mind, we are really chasing after a dream while in reality, its an infatuation, it is fake, it is simply the wind we are after. Something that is not seen, not heard, only felt.
As we have continued to do this, scars have been left in our hearts and in or lives. Some have healed, others have become wounds that have raptured into worse ones. We have sought attention in the wrong places and we have in return forgotten our own values.
Attention seeking often comes about as a result of feeling unwanted. Today we will probably look a little into how we need to deal with that feeling. It is painful, it is heart drenching and it leaves us wondering what kind of people we really are.
I will give an example of myself. It is not once that I have felt quite unwanted. The feeling that comes with it is heavy. One, there is a lump that just won’t go away in the throat. Two, there are tears that just want to fall and you don’t want them to. And three, there is a heaviness in the heart that’s almost heavier than your own body weight, the heart fails to pump the blood right.
However, even in feeling unwanted, I later come to understand that I will not be every one’s cup of tea…. (let’s use tea cos it’s my current love). You will want to be there, you will want to be accepted, you will want to contribute, but not everyone wanted any of that from me. It is difficult to want to be there, but the other party makes you feel not needed.
I would really want to understand if it is the same thing that causes us to start seeking attention even in the wrong places. Some of us will begin to dress provocatively, other times we will land in the wrong company, this is because we need to be felt and to be heard. However, it does not always have to be this way. If at the back of your mind you will know that you will not always be a “yes” to everyone you want to be a “yes” to, you can change.
- It helps you look into who you are
Rejection always comes with a negative feeling that brings with it a negative picture of your true self. Sometimes it is not the fact that you are not worth the accepting. Sometimes you are more than you think and it believe. The fact that you are exceptional will often lead to rejection. Not everyone can handle how much of a great person you are. This is because as humans, we want to remain on some certain base that’s not of truth.
- You get the courage to draw away
The more you are rejected, the more you will realize that sometimes you are not the bad person. Other times it is just a way of being told that you can always walk away. Not all company is good, however much we want to be in it. It is painful yes to be unwanted, but it will be better to know you escaped something that would have had a much bigger impact.
- You will begin to value your time and your space
There is a time I used to be so much available. I was there for everyone and I was available for anything that was mentioned. Lol. As a result, I could not find time to myself. I was lost in doing just what others wanted. I forgot all about me. It does get to that point. However, allowing ourselves have time and a little space to self brings a lot of discoveries that change us. We are on an absolutely whole new level.
The truth is this. You will not always fit in, where you are trying to. You will not always bring a smile on the faces of the people you are often with. You will not always be welcome where you want to be. If it happens, don’t chase the wind. If it happens, say it is okay and cultivate that time with self. It’ll reap a good harvest. You will come out better and smarter than you would ever know.
Thank you so much for taking the time to go through this with me. From my heart to yours! 🙂
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